Do you find yourself wasting hours away just scrolling through images and posts, not wanting to miss out?
As a society, we are living through our screens each and every day.
On average a person has 4 social media platforms and uses their mobile device for 1 hour and 20 minutes just checking these sites (Daily Telegraph).
The Huffington Post also mentions that young adults are twice more likely to use their phone and check social sites and the web for up to 5 hours a day!
This social media surfing is having a huge effect on our mental health and well-being.
It’s no surprise that the figures have increased on us using our mobile phones and the epidemic of mental health rises in Depression and Anxiety.
The main reason why social media is so popular is, it taps into our very primal need for connection. This however is a false connection and we see people putting on and sharing their perfect pictures and lives making us feel inadequate and we start to feel down and depressed.
For most us using social media, we like to scroll through everyone’s details and pictures and by doing this we often distract ourselves and have a boredom release. What did we do before social media?
Two-thirds of participants of a study by Anxiety UK 2012 reported difficulty relaxing and sleeping after they used the sites, while 55% said they felt “worried or uncomfortable” when they were unable to log onto their social media accounts.
I know I have felt the same way when using Facebook or Instagram, I feel wired and unable to relax. This might be the same for you, start to recognise how you feel after using social media.
We need to get back to the real world where the connection is sitting opposite a friend and being present, showing up and really listening.
Be on the receiving end of someone showing up fully for you, you feel a much deeper connection then both sitting on your phones.
Another great tip is not to use your phone or check social sites at least an hour before you go to sleep. This will help your system realise it’s time for bed and help you relax more too.
Even restaurants have got in on this and ask you put your phones into a bag that is sealed. If the bag remains closed throughout the meal you get a discount on the final bill. Now that’s worth eating out together and you finally have a decent conversation.
I must admit I’m not an expert in this yet but I’m working on it.
I know for me social media is a pure distraction from what I’m thinking and feeling. It’s great to flick through and numb myself but not spend my life on it.
When you find yourself becoming lost in the pictures and recognise your spending lots of time on social media, try going inwards. Spend some time away from phone, breath and ask why am I spending so much time on this? What else can I do that will make me feel good and see a result of it?
Try reading a book, get some colouring or painting out, listen to your favourite album. All these things can help us unwind, relax and feel good without distractions that make us feel awful at the end of it.
Try thinking about your relationship with your phone and try to see if you can do other things then just sitting and scrolling.